I would have written this post last night but I was having such a deep conversation with my "special guy" that I did not want to take away from it, and ultimately his meaning to me, but multitasking. I have come to realize this as time has gone by. I have learned to ride the tides, and steer at the coming moment, for if you miss that turn, there is no guarantee that there will be a similar opportunity waiting in the nearby bushes.
That being said let's get down to business.
LADIES---I have turned a corner and began steering. Last night my special guy, and I refer to him in this manner because the term "boyfriend" is beginning to sound juvenile, pointed out something about myself that I had not yet noticed. He stated that I am very giggly on the phone with him. He then asked me if I was this way with other people and, of course, the answer is no. So he proceeded to ask me why, when I am with him physically, do I always seem serious; not at all smiling from ear to ear, or laughing and being silly. I stated that "I am still trying to figure you into my equation."
I KNOW NOW HOW STUPID I MINDSET WAS!!!
Of course he has a few choice word, basically stating that I should not try to make control what happens, but to just allow "nature to take its course"(he did not use those word, thank GOD).
All in all---I use that a lot I am well aware---the point that I am trying to make is this ladies: Don't try to think yourself through everything. As I speak these words I am in shock of myself for having the audacity to speak such nearly impossible truth, which is essentially what it is. My guy taught me a lesson that would have never registered previously. Maybe I do REALLY like him.
Maybe...................
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Football
The FIFA World Cup is in full swing, as two teams have already been eliminated: Cameroon and Ivory Coast(Cote di Ivoire), and the host country, South Africa(RSA) not even equipped to ride the emotional high of their beloved country. Ivory Coast, although eliminated in a 3-1 romping of Brassil(yes this is the international way of saying it, not all about the U.S), the team became the first African Nation to score a goal against the Brassilian National Team in the World Cup, so cudos there. With African teams falling short left and right, the host nation has their heads down with the lingering question: What happened? They still have Algeria, who has only surrendered a single goal against Slovenia and held an English team to a scoreless draw, with the U.S waiting in the wings. So there is still hope for the host nation yet.
Asia has made some noise with the stellar defense of the People's Republic of Korea against Brassil, which is the number one team in the world(again). That game grew into a small scoring fest with two quick goals by Brassil in the latter part of the second half before North Korea scored a beautiful run. They were revered by apparent Chinese fans playing as North Korean fans, which is a living testament to how underdeveloped this nation has become. South Korea(the free part of the country) put on a clinic with a 2-0 thrashing of Greece in its opening game before being dismantled by Argentina, 3-1. Too bad, they looked like a team of destiny.
As usual the South American teams are thriving in this international display of sheer will. Brassil, Argentina, Uruguay, Paraguay(probably the weakest of the continent), with the surprise of Honduras and Chile with a somewhat stiff defense. The only thing to report here is how far will this region go.
Dominicanos son ok, pero nesecitan mas practicado. With a couple of years, and hopefully great reproduction, they will get a taste of success in the next years.
Europe is a mixture. You have Portugal, with an average team and a whinny "superstar" in Ronaldo. Such a waste of talent if all you do is flop all over the fucking field, and try to get big AFTER your teammate came to your rescue against an Ivory Coast player after calling you out on your pussy playing, excuse my language. England has two draws: One with U.S. and one with Algeria. Slovenia has a large mouth, and with the help of that African referee, was able to back it up. Greece is coming along for it's first World Cup goal and all. Of course you have Spain(can you say UPSET???), Germany(can not hold momentum after 4-0 kill of the Aussies), the Dutch(great play) and Danes(not so much) and Suiza or Switzerland(beautiful upset of the Spaniards). France is just fucking up on such a grand scale(this is my team so I am highly pissed. FIND THE FUCKING RAT AND PRACTICE DAMMIT!!!), and Italy(the old guys are losing it's luster with a tie with the Kiwis).
Down Under was looking dismal with the first outing of Australia against Germany, losing 0-4. But was redeemed with the draw of the New Zealanders, and later the 1-1 draw with Italy, such a historic achievement for a relatively unknown country on the international football scene. We will see what unfolds.
Now the U.S.
1-1 draw with the English, our former slave-owners, no puns please!!! The muffed goal seen around the world by Green helped our chances, thanks in part to Clint Dempsey's powerful leg---let me get off or him now before I never do. Second match against the trash talking Slovenia. HORRIFIC first half of football. SUCH an improbable comeback and "should have been win" if it were not for an unexplained "foul" on Edu. WHAT THE FUCK SON???
All in all, great cup thus far, full of upsets and great finishes. GIVE IT UP FOR THE NEW BALL CREATING DEFENSE!!!
Asia has made some noise with the stellar defense of the People's Republic of Korea against Brassil, which is the number one team in the world(again). That game grew into a small scoring fest with two quick goals by Brassil in the latter part of the second half before North Korea scored a beautiful run. They were revered by apparent Chinese fans playing as North Korean fans, which is a living testament to how underdeveloped this nation has become. South Korea(the free part of the country) put on a clinic with a 2-0 thrashing of Greece in its opening game before being dismantled by Argentina, 3-1. Too bad, they looked like a team of destiny.
As usual the South American teams are thriving in this international display of sheer will. Brassil, Argentina, Uruguay, Paraguay(probably the weakest of the continent), with the surprise of Honduras and Chile with a somewhat stiff defense. The only thing to report here is how far will this region go.
Dominicanos son ok, pero nesecitan mas practicado. With a couple of years, and hopefully great reproduction, they will get a taste of success in the next years.
Europe is a mixture. You have Portugal, with an average team and a whinny "superstar" in Ronaldo. Such a waste of talent if all you do is flop all over the fucking field, and try to get big AFTER your teammate came to your rescue against an Ivory Coast player after calling you out on your pussy playing, excuse my language. England has two draws: One with U.S. and one with Algeria. Slovenia has a large mouth, and with the help of that African referee, was able to back it up. Greece is coming along for it's first World Cup goal and all. Of course you have Spain(can you say UPSET???), Germany(can not hold momentum after 4-0 kill of the Aussies), the Dutch(great play) and Danes(not so much) and Suiza or Switzerland(beautiful upset of the Spaniards). France is just fucking up on such a grand scale(this is my team so I am highly pissed. FIND THE FUCKING RAT AND PRACTICE DAMMIT!!!), and Italy(the old guys are losing it's luster with a tie with the Kiwis).
Down Under was looking dismal with the first outing of Australia against Germany, losing 0-4. But was redeemed with the draw of the New Zealanders, and later the 1-1 draw with Italy, such a historic achievement for a relatively unknown country on the international football scene. We will see what unfolds.
Now the U.S.
1-1 draw with the English, our former slave-owners, no puns please!!! The muffed goal seen around the world by Green helped our chances, thanks in part to Clint Dempsey's powerful leg---let me get off or him now before I never do. Second match against the trash talking Slovenia. HORRIFIC first half of football. SUCH an improbable comeback and "should have been win" if it were not for an unexplained "foul" on Edu. WHAT THE FUCK SON???
All in all, great cup thus far, full of upsets and great finishes. GIVE IT UP FOR THE NEW BALL CREATING DEFENSE!!!
Do I Press It???
I have a problem this time around, and I need to release my frustrations before I unleash a wrath unknown to man.
My mother has been dating this "man" for about 12 years now.
She stumbled upon him on a college campus, where she works, in a then position of "house-sitter" for the athletic dorm. He had no car, no money past his weekly check, no house or apartment, he was renting out a 10x10 centiblock room with a bathroom from his aunt who, besides his work around the house, wants nothing to do with him. He did not even own a checking account until my mother came along and introduced the concept of saving money to him. He barely received his diploma, so you know he does not possess a college degree so he is not a "struggling genius. He is loud and OVERLY-talkative. He resorts to childish antics most of the time, seldom grasping the cuffs of adulthood.
Fast-Forward 12 years and he lives with her, struggling to help pay rent every month, sometimes his ass has to be covered by my mother months on end. He is still loud and OVERLY-talkative, resorts to childish antics and rarely behaves as an adult. He is disrepectful, and does not even have total respect from his children who seem to curse him every other conversation that he has with them. He whines(neglected to mention that in the "12 years ago" section), and is too sensitive.
For Example:
I do not eat pork, for I see myself later down the road only eating seafood. Every time this fact comes into play, he becomes offended, almost as if I am disrespecting him. Just the other night he cooked dinner: FRIED PORK CHOPS. My mother, whenever she decides she wants pork for dinner, always cooks a side meat dish for me, and it is usually enough to hold me over for leftovers just like everyone else' dinner would. This, excuse my language, motherfucker fries up the pork chops and did not even think to cook something else for me(mind you the freezer is packed with other meats besides pork). This is a reoccurring thing with him. Almost everything he does is out of spite or just straight up bullshit. I am a college woman now, so open-mindedness is what I breathe, so this shit has pushed me to the limit, and my summer break has JUST started!!! I am so close to strangling him it is in need of some borderline-psychiatric therapy sessions.
I always thought the parent relied on their child's response to a new person to determine whether or not to continue dating them. Just because he has taken us on as his "children" does not mean you should keep him around us.
Myself, as well as my brother and sister do not care for him one bit.
I have got to get away or I will kill him.
As far as human judgment goes he deserves it, for reasons that cannot be expressed for the sake of my mother's private affairs.
I feel better, but I am still wondering, do I press it?
My mother has been dating this "man" for about 12 years now.
She stumbled upon him on a college campus, where she works, in a then position of "house-sitter" for the athletic dorm. He had no car, no money past his weekly check, no house or apartment, he was renting out a 10x10 centiblock room with a bathroom from his aunt who, besides his work around the house, wants nothing to do with him. He did not even own a checking account until my mother came along and introduced the concept of saving money to him. He barely received his diploma, so you know he does not possess a college degree so he is not a "struggling genius. He is loud and OVERLY-talkative. He resorts to childish antics most of the time, seldom grasping the cuffs of adulthood.
Fast-Forward 12 years and he lives with her, struggling to help pay rent every month, sometimes his ass has to be covered by my mother months on end. He is still loud and OVERLY-talkative, resorts to childish antics and rarely behaves as an adult. He is disrepectful, and does not even have total respect from his children who seem to curse him every other conversation that he has with them. He whines(neglected to mention that in the "12 years ago" section), and is too sensitive.
For Example:
I do not eat pork, for I see myself later down the road only eating seafood. Every time this fact comes into play, he becomes offended, almost as if I am disrespecting him. Just the other night he cooked dinner: FRIED PORK CHOPS. My mother, whenever she decides she wants pork for dinner, always cooks a side meat dish for me, and it is usually enough to hold me over for leftovers just like everyone else' dinner would. This, excuse my language, motherfucker fries up the pork chops and did not even think to cook something else for me(mind you the freezer is packed with other meats besides pork). This is a reoccurring thing with him. Almost everything he does is out of spite or just straight up bullshit. I am a college woman now, so open-mindedness is what I breathe, so this shit has pushed me to the limit, and my summer break has JUST started!!! I am so close to strangling him it is in need of some borderline-psychiatric therapy sessions.
I always thought the parent relied on their child's response to a new person to determine whether or not to continue dating them. Just because he has taken us on as his "children" does not mean you should keep him around us.
Myself, as well as my brother and sister do not care for him one bit.
I have got to get away or I will kill him.
As far as human judgment goes he deserves it, for reasons that cannot be expressed for the sake of my mother's private affairs.
I feel better, but I am still wondering, do I press it?
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
MEN
Just when you believe that the sky is the limit, you crash back to earth. He doesn't call, or just neglects to inform you via e-mail that, for whatever reason, that his cellular device is not being currently used. I don't blame him though, it is how men are programmed. They expect you to pick up on their "not-so-obvious" telepathic messages and automatically assume that he hasn't lost interest, or is playing you, but that technical difficulties have began to control his life temporarily.
Now, I am not a psychiatrist or any type of expert on the male species, but I do have an edge up on most women because of my natural interests and personality.
So this doesn't not bother me as it would for most women, but that doesn't mean it's not something that would make me second-guess my own "innerings". I think this is what makes women as a collective whole the most furious about men.
THEY DON'T GET IT!!!!!!!!!!
Now, again, they were just not programmed to understand fully. Rarely do you run into a man who will be able to run around your thoughts and feel upon every fiber of your soul. Hell, I had a boyfriend who was able to nearly master myself. But that is not to be expected. It is hard enough to get them out of the phase where the only way to express their liking of a female is to punch them and run away. This action can be expressed in a multitude of ways, not just literally, but figuratively.
Anyway
The point I am trying to make is, as women, no matter how hard we try to avoid it, our men will HAVE to be molded in a certain way. That being said, no man is worth throwing away your life reshaping, for that is a lose-lose situation. Although, if the pupil is an exceptional learner...............*wink wink*.
Bottom Line: for you to constantly be looking for ways to improve your man, or even searching for men to create new identities for the boy(because that is what they are), it would be catastrophe to your mental and emotional existence. And if you have a good man, besides the minor teasing, do not push the limits on him. If you do, you will probably lose the best thing that will ever happen to you.
LET IT MARINATE.
Now, I am not a psychiatrist or any type of expert on the male species, but I do have an edge up on most women because of my natural interests and personality.
So this doesn't not bother me as it would for most women, but that doesn't mean it's not something that would make me second-guess my own "innerings". I think this is what makes women as a collective whole the most furious about men.
THEY DON'T GET IT!!!!!!!!!!
Now, again, they were just not programmed to understand fully. Rarely do you run into a man who will be able to run around your thoughts and feel upon every fiber of your soul. Hell, I had a boyfriend who was able to nearly master myself. But that is not to be expected. It is hard enough to get them out of the phase where the only way to express their liking of a female is to punch them and run away. This action can be expressed in a multitude of ways, not just literally, but figuratively.
Anyway
The point I am trying to make is, as women, no matter how hard we try to avoid it, our men will HAVE to be molded in a certain way. That being said, no man is worth throwing away your life reshaping, for that is a lose-lose situation. Although, if the pupil is an exceptional learner...............*wink wink*.
Bottom Line: for you to constantly be looking for ways to improve your man, or even searching for men to create new identities for the boy(because that is what they are), it would be catastrophe to your mental and emotional existence. And if you have a good man, besides the minor teasing, do not push the limits on him. If you do, you will probably lose the best thing that will ever happen to you.
LET IT MARINATE.
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Options
So you are coming of age in this thing that GOD has given us, called life.
For those who are not religious, this is my last reference to a higher power, not because of a dwindling faith bank, but because I would prefer you to be comfortable.
But back to the topic up for discussion.
OPTIONS:
This is a blog about the time in your life, no matter when or where for that matter, where you find yourself being a potential heart-breaker. I am speaking on this topic because this is what I am going through now. I tend to blog through my personal experiences to gain, or regain, clarify on life, as well as help those who can relate to me at that particular time.
Anyway, I have two guys, not a third because he is officially denounced by myself--one of those guys who you have dated before, and he wants in again. I had to realize that although the familiar is EXTREMELY comfortable, it does not make it the right situation. For me, it was a chapter that needed closure, and that is what I gained. As for the other two guys, they are brand new to my life. One is an army man who has a child, yes, but is such an incredible man with his son, with his schooling( he is a senior in college, and I am a sophomore), and he has a job( hasn't not asked for me to go into my pocket for anything, and declined when I offered). The other guy is training for marine enlistment in August. He is a spoiler of his women, a product of a fatherless household, but he uses that as an excuse to please women, ha! The thing is, both guys are great, besides the fact that they are men and they need some type of molding. I am just overjoyed that these are two young men, both 22 years of age, that do not need me to be a positive influence in their lives, for I am not up for helping them change, I am too old for those type of games. Although very young, I have a life too heavy for teaching a man how to be a man. Shit, I still need to learn how to be a woman!
Anyway
Options are both blessings and curses, for both guys have the potential to be hurt. The trick is to be true to yourself, only because at the end of the day, the reflection device hanging on the wall that feeds you directly an image of yourself in its truest form will ALWAYS tell the truth. What do you want staring back at you???
It's great to possess options, don't abuse it, for they WILL come back and bite your ass hard.
For those who are not religious, this is my last reference to a higher power, not because of a dwindling faith bank, but because I would prefer you to be comfortable.
But back to the topic up for discussion.
OPTIONS:
This is a blog about the time in your life, no matter when or where for that matter, where you find yourself being a potential heart-breaker. I am speaking on this topic because this is what I am going through now. I tend to blog through my personal experiences to gain, or regain, clarify on life, as well as help those who can relate to me at that particular time.
Anyway, I have two guys, not a third because he is officially denounced by myself--one of those guys who you have dated before, and he wants in again. I had to realize that although the familiar is EXTREMELY comfortable, it does not make it the right situation. For me, it was a chapter that needed closure, and that is what I gained. As for the other two guys, they are brand new to my life. One is an army man who has a child, yes, but is such an incredible man with his son, with his schooling( he is a senior in college, and I am a sophomore), and he has a job( hasn't not asked for me to go into my pocket for anything, and declined when I offered). The other guy is training for marine enlistment in August. He is a spoiler of his women, a product of a fatherless household, but he uses that as an excuse to please women, ha! The thing is, both guys are great, besides the fact that they are men and they need some type of molding. I am just overjoyed that these are two young men, both 22 years of age, that do not need me to be a positive influence in their lives, for I am not up for helping them change, I am too old for those type of games. Although very young, I have a life too heavy for teaching a man how to be a man. Shit, I still need to learn how to be a woman!
Anyway
Options are both blessings and curses, for both guys have the potential to be hurt. The trick is to be true to yourself, only because at the end of the day, the reflection device hanging on the wall that feeds you directly an image of yourself in its truest form will ALWAYS tell the truth. What do you want staring back at you???
It's great to possess options, don't abuse it, for they WILL come back and bite your ass hard.
Thursday, June 3, 2010
Personal
I am a young woman who loves to have her business personal. I do not want anyone learning about me from any outsiders. That being said I love my friends, close or not. However, that does not mean they have the right to spill any type of information that you so confidentially told them to anyone else.
You can know someone inside and out, and also know that they would tell the person that is asking you about your friend, whatever information they seek, but that does not give you the right to tell them anything.
For my business to continue to be my business, I feel that I need people around me who will respect my wishes and keep their mouths shut!!! Now, you may be thinking that I should not be sharing this with my readers, and that I should be hashing this out with my friend.
I agree.
Really I do.
However, if I were to bring it up now, I would snap and this little situation would turn into a great situation with tons of hoobla surrounding it.
I just do not want that.
So for those of you who feel that I should just talk it out, I will, just not right now.
STOP RIDING MY FUCKING BACK!!!
That is all...............
You can know someone inside and out, and also know that they would tell the person that is asking you about your friend, whatever information they seek, but that does not give you the right to tell them anything.
For my business to continue to be my business, I feel that I need people around me who will respect my wishes and keep their mouths shut!!! Now, you may be thinking that I should not be sharing this with my readers, and that I should be hashing this out with my friend.
I agree.
Really I do.
However, if I were to bring it up now, I would snap and this little situation would turn into a great situation with tons of hoobla surrounding it.
I just do not want that.
So for those of you who feel that I should just talk it out, I will, just not right now.
STOP RIDING MY FUCKING BACK!!!
That is all...............
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Conformity
Sure!!! Well, he's not EXACTLY the guy for, but you can mold him and he'll be PERFECT.
This is where we ALL go wrong. Men do it as well, but this blog is not about them. Trust men, your time will come.
Back to the ladies. No matter what walk of life you made have emerged from, what makes you think you have to settle??? Love is such a precious entity that should NEVER be abused. I understand that, as women, we have eternal clocks, and the time left seems to always be not enough. That doesn't mean you have to conform. He can be the most beautiful man alive, but if he is not for you then you will just have to accept that and leave him be. Love is something that wants to look, not be sought after. If you waste your time with the wrong one, you are inadvertently losing the right one. FUCK MR. RIGHT NOW. He only brings you more emptiness, far more pain than what is experienced being single. Seriously, what is wrong with waiting. A cliche, I am well aware, but patience is a virtue. It is just like post-secondary schooling, you have to do undergrad before you can possess that degree. Which do you prefer, high school diploma, or M.D with private practice???
This is where we ALL go wrong. Men do it as well, but this blog is not about them. Trust men, your time will come.
Back to the ladies. No matter what walk of life you made have emerged from, what makes you think you have to settle??? Love is such a precious entity that should NEVER be abused. I understand that, as women, we have eternal clocks, and the time left seems to always be not enough. That doesn't mean you have to conform. He can be the most beautiful man alive, but if he is not for you then you will just have to accept that and leave him be. Love is something that wants to look, not be sought after. If you waste your time with the wrong one, you are inadvertently losing the right one. FUCK MR. RIGHT NOW. He only brings you more emptiness, far more pain than what is experienced being single. Seriously, what is wrong with waiting. A cliche, I am well aware, but patience is a virtue. It is just like post-secondary schooling, you have to do undergrad before you can possess that degree. Which do you prefer, high school diploma, or M.D with private practice???
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
TAG ME IN!!!
In a world of fashion, outer beauty, and no shame, lies a woman who is the total opposite. Oh sure she is well aware of the world around her, sex sells and self-gloating is the thing to do. For her, however, that is not what should be wanted.
You see, this woman, is not one that you would initially pick out of a crowd and want to give her the world. But somehow the man, or woman, will always end with the particular woman. Want to know why??? Because, SHE IS ONE OF A KIND!!!!!
You know the ones, always in attendance of a sporting event, one who can throw you under a bus when pushed to the edge, THE ONE THAT EVEN HAS AN EDGE!!! These women present you with a challenge, and keep you intrigued.
My question to you men, and women, why do you try you damnest to find that is a fake-boob, silicon-infected walking dildo, when you can look next door, most of the time this is your best bet, and find the woman who you can potentially spend the REST of your life together. Trust me, she will not pressure you, for she is wondering about you ass as well, so forever doesn't have to begin right then and there.
Next time you're out, instead of approaching the woman at the bar who is TRYING to catch your eye, a.k.a she is COMPLETELY out of her element, try the lady in the booth, or, better yet, screaming at the television for a shitty call..................you won't regret.
You see, this woman, is not one that you would initially pick out of a crowd and want to give her the world. But somehow the man, or woman, will always end with the particular woman. Want to know why??? Because, SHE IS ONE OF A KIND!!!!!
You know the ones, always in attendance of a sporting event, one who can throw you under a bus when pushed to the edge, THE ONE THAT EVEN HAS AN EDGE!!! These women present you with a challenge, and keep you intrigued.
My question to you men, and women, why do you try you damnest to find that is a fake-boob, silicon-infected walking dildo, when you can look next door, most of the time this is your best bet, and find the woman who you can potentially spend the REST of your life together. Trust me, she will not pressure you, for she is wondering about you ass as well, so forever doesn't have to begin right then and there.
Next time you're out, instead of approaching the woman at the bar who is TRYING to catch your eye, a.k.a she is COMPLETELY out of her element, try the lady in the booth, or, better yet, screaming at the television for a shitty call..................you won't regret.
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